South Sudan's English Daily Newspaper
"We Dare where others fear"
By Simon Deng
A prominent peace activist and program coordinator for the Whitaker Peace and Development Initiative Bush Buse, has urged the people of South Sudan to embrace their traditional cultures instead of adopting Western values.
“We want the world to see our culture. Our attire is beautiful because it is ours, crafted with pride and local craftsmanship. I would wear my Shilluk attire, even if I am Mundari, and a Shilluk can wear Mundari attire because it represents South Sudan and our rich diversity,” said Buse on Thursday in an interview while recalling his fourth wedding anniversary.
Buse shared that he met his companion, Mercy Ali Malou, in 2017 at Tali Village in Terekeka County, Central Equatoria state, adding that their love story is a testament to genuine love.
“With courage and sincerity, I approached Mercy, laying my cards on the table without hesitation. Mercy responded with a yes, and from that moment, our love developed naturally—no pretenses, just pure love,” he said.
Buse revealed that their families participated in the introduction three years later, and the dowry was paid as the first sign of commitment, noting that he was 29 years old and his spouse was 23 at the time of their wedding.
He also mentioned that many young people expect a White Wedding, but they aim to revolutionize the marriage narrative, just like the May 16 revolution, which helped them embrace their roots and independence.
“Young people should study hard, work hard, and establish themselves, starting humbly—even with a small tukul—because that’s the foundation for building a strong family,” said Buse.
Mercy Ali Malou, a 27-year-old mother, stated that many young people are troubled in their marriages by societal pressures, including peer influence and financial constraints, which often lead to divorce.
“Today, many young couples face challenges such as high dowry costs, societal pressures, and conflicting expectations that sometimes discourage marriage or cause conflicts. We believe that marriage should be rooted in love, mutual respect, and shared goals as the foundation of lasting happiness,” said Mercy.
“Marry for love. A wedding is just one day; true marriage is about building a life together, supporting each other’s dreams, and respecting each other’s contributions. Don’t let material things or societal pressures dictate your happiness,” she advised.
